Why did i let my girlfriend had paid sex with a Thai boy

I asked the write of this story “My girlfriend had paid sex with a Thai boy” why he let his girl friend have sex with boys. I really did not understand it. If I would be him I would make some kind of trade were I can also have sex with others but I would not let her off on her own.

He reason that he stated that he will loose her if he don’t work with me because if you are in that position and do what ever the girls want then you will loose her sooner or later anyway its not love its something you own and somebody will steal it from you.

Here is his answer to my questions WHY?

Hi Personal Thailand,

please understand: SHE WANTED IT !

I think my report gives already some hints why it happened respectively why I lost step by step my self confidence to try to strictly recject her special desires.

Probably I made the decisive mistake right in the beginning, when I gave her a wrong signal:
Instead of reacting outraged (….like she does fuirously when I dare to only have a look on other girls), when my gf cautiously uttered that she has ‘fantasies’ with Thai boys, I reacted depressed, sad and kept silent. It think it was this instant lack of aggressivness from my side, which made her slip away through my finger towards the point of no return.

Secondly I was surprised that my gf was at this time already in an extreme heat for a Thai boy. From my initial reaction she obviously did sense ‘space for tolerance’ from my side.
After my initial reaction the dam broke: The more obsessively she wanted it, the less I dared to stop her with a clarifying: STOP IT NOW!

It is not easy to explain, but I think after reaching this point I increasingly avoided emotional confrontation with My gf, fearing I might loose my girl. Like I pointed out, she is a beautiful very well shaped girl…a lot of guys turn after her home in Germany…but all of them she let ‘starved’. ”Sorry gentlemen…no chances, Rainer is my partner!” In Bangkok surroundings this was totally different…her mood changes quickly, not I, but she was after some extreme fun…breaking taboos, etc.

So loosing my girl or rather learnig to accept to share her with a paid Thai guy, who is bedding her in our holidays?

Then there was this desperate hope from my side ”…okay it will be some kind of ridicoulos one night stand and she will be disappointed and fed up with this rather slim thai guys afterwards.” As you can read in my report this was an illusion…and latest at the breakfast table it was sealed that my gf was in a ‘rewarding’ sex-relationship with a thai.

I seems paradox, but after she did it several times with the thai boy (..they had even four hours before our return flight was due a last ‘good-bye fuck’…sorry for my language, it still upsets me somehow) our relationship normalized quickly back in Germany and my girl friend is very kind and attentive to me…calling me tolerant and a good and reliable partner. This let me suspect that maybe quite a number of girls and women who enjoy a stable relationship would go simultaneously astray to look for extra ‘sex-kicks’, once they

a) are sure that the will not endanger their relationship and
b) can rely on their male partner that he will not start to date other girls.

It annoyed me extremly to think about what has happend behind that ‘do-not-disturb’ hotel door in Bangkok…the disturbing images in my mind:..how they undressed..how he touched her titts…how my girl friend opened finally her legs for an exotic stranger…how they came both in a hot Bangkok night! On the other hand it are these images what made me even more jealous and probably that is the reason why I am very much after my girl.

So, I hope I could give you a least some kind of answer.